How do I politely ask my Realtor what she’s doing to help sell my home?
When you’re selling your home, you expect your realtor to be actively working behind the scenes — marketing, networking, promoting, and keeping your listing top‑of‑mind. But if you’re not seeing much activity, it’s completely normal to wonder what’s actually happening. And yes, you can ask without sounding confrontational or ungrateful.
Here’s a warm, simple way to approach it.
Start with curiosity, not criticism
A gentle opener keeps the conversation positive. Something like: “Hey, I’d love to get an update on what’s happening with the marketing for my home. Can you walk me through what you’ve been working on lately?”
This shows interest, not frustration, and gives your agent room to share what they’ve been doing.
Ask for specifics
If you want more clarity, it’s okay to dig a little deeper:
- “What marketing channels are you using right now?”
- “Have there been any recent inquiries or showings?”
- “Is there anything we should adjust to get more traction?”
These questions help you understand the strategy without sounding accusatory.
Keep it collaborative
You’re not grilling them — you’re partnering with them. A simple line like: “I want to make sure we’re doing everything we can to get the best results.” keeps the tone friendly and team‑oriented.
If the answer feels vague
Sometimes you’ll get a lot of generalities and not much substance. If that happens, you can politely ask for a weekly update or a short summary of marketing activities. Most good agents already do this, and any professional should be comfortable providing it.
And if you’re still not seeing effort
It’s okay to reassess. Your home is a major asset, and you deserve an agent who’s proactive, communicative, and genuinely invested in your success.
But start with the conversation — most of the time, a simple, kind check‑in gets things moving again.